Updates on the guys.....

I'm trying to blog as frequently as possible but sometimes life gets in the way, if you know what I mean. My mom has been in town for the past few weeks so it's been busy and I haven't been living online like I normally would. She left today and this is a good way to focus on something else.

I know some of you are looking for updates on “sugar daddy”. He got on my nerves so I’ve decided to kick him to the curb. He had too many habits, such as smoking, bad teeth, and a prepaid cell phone, that I didn’t like. I also felt that he was calling me too much. Fortunately, he stopped calling for a few weeks, but then he started calling me again a few days ago. I don’t think I’ll be returning his calls because I can do a lot better than that or at least I hope so. I’ve dismissed anyone that I’ve met in the last month or so and I’m now operating with a clean slate. It makes life a little more exciting. I swear sometimes, I think this dating thing is fun and other times it’s a real pain in the butt....trying to juggle people, attempt to remain interested and then see if they have long term dating potential. As they say, the grass is always greener on the other side!!

Then.....just when I wonder if things are getting boring, I realize that there’s always excitement when I step out in my neighborhood.

Last night I ran into “big daddy” (read more about him in the April 18th blog) at a local neighborhood restaurant which I’m actually not going to name it since he hangs there ALL the time. He was dining by himself and asked me to pull up a chair next to him. He offered me a drink and we starting talking. He wanted to know what was up with me and after we got through the small talk pleasantries, he basically mentioned that although he got engaged a month and a half ago…are you ready for this??? That could have been me!! Yeah right!! I’m not that desperate and dammit, I have standards!! Let’s see if I’m saying that if I’m single at the age of 40 or 50. He said that he still likes me and likes the fact that I have integrity, I’m beautiful and I’m smart. And that I’m so much more amazing than he’s fiancé (ouch!!) He mentioned that I basically didn’t know a good thing while I had it. He said that he enjoyed our interactions, the good times as well as the bad. The main issue between us was that we differed on too many things, such as what gets me worked up in the world of race, class and politics and the fact that I don’t like certain aspects about my block, such as the guys hanging out at the corner. He has never left the neighborhood, so he thinks that I’m just being elitist. We ended up having a heated discussion last night but it simmered after a while and he said that if I want to have a further conversation over dinner, just to let him know. Now, I don’t know how I would feel if I were engaged and my man was still chasing after some other woman. That’s really unnecessary!! I think he’s just at that critical age of 35-40 and is ready to settle down and get married so that’s been his focus in the past few years. It’s scary how a person can get when they become desperate!!